My Custody Coach - Win-Win Child Custody

This course is designed to help all divorcing parents get through the custody process .  More than 50% of marriages end in divorce.  And most involve children.  Getting through the process and doing what is best for you and your children without destroying your finances and keeping your sanity can be quite a challenge.  While most family lawyers are well versed in the legal aspects of divorce, they are usually ill equipped or not motivated to handle the emotional aspects of divorce.  Plus there is always the inherent conflict where they are trying to bill you as much as possible.  It is just not a process that works and many people and their families come out of divorce either emotionally or financially scarred for life. 

I have been through two divorces and two custody battles.  At the conclusion of both I was awarded more time with my three boys.  Going through he first divorce I received a very expensive education.  By the second time I figured it out and realized that your lawyer needs to be managed.  It is my hope to give you to tools to get through the process without having to filing bankruptcy, gain more time with your children and not lose your sanity!  This course is designed to help you do exactly that! 

Once you realize your marriage no longer works, you start to think about ending the relationship and the implications. Immediately all kinds of thoughts begin to run through your head. How will this impact my children, my life, and my finances? Where will we live? Will the children live with me or my ex? Will I lose my children? Will I have to go through a custody evaluation? Should I fight for custody or just settle for whatever offer is presented? How much will this cost? If we disagree, will I be able to get a fair custody agreement? How do I deal with my negative emotions? Where do I start? Quickly you become overwhelmed with the magnitude and consequences of the decision and the realization that it will impact virtually every area or your life.

Divorce is right up there with death of loved one, job loss, moving and, of course, ending a relationship as one of life’s most stressful events. In fact, with divorce you get a bit of each all rolled up into one perfect storm of stress that can test even the most well-grounded people. While some people thrive on stress, most make less than perfect decisions under such demanding circumstances. During a divorce, you are experiencing many powerful emotions while attempting to comprehend the fallout of ending a relationship, the possible loss of your children and your home and the financial carnage that follows. This is a difficult state of mind for making well thought out decisions. Common sense becomes scarce. And it is magnified knowing that if thought out poorly, it may haunt you for the rest of your life. It has been said that there are as little as six days or events that define the course of our lives. Divorce is definitely one of them. I have gone through two divorces and subsequently two custody evaluations. I didn’t request either but was awarded additional custodial time as a result of both. You may have noticed I did not use the word ‘win’. That is because no one really wins custody. But if you focus on what is important, which is your children, take the high road and you are successful, both parents will be given the opportunity to do what is best for your children. Hopefully you will rise to the occasion.

I want to share the lessons that cost me hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal bills and years to learn in an effort to not only reduce your legal bills but also preserve your child’s mental health and help you retain your sanity. And you cannot put a price on that! Have you ever heard the saying, ‘if you think education is expensive try ignorance’ or ‘it is much easier to raise a child right than to try to fix a broken adult’? In order to help you avoid these pitfalls, I will cover the key areas you will need to know if you want to have shared custody. Throughout the book I randomly alternate between ‘child’ and ‘children.’

I will guide you through the custody process and give you strategies for obtaining a fair, practical and well thought out custody agreement. I have also included a list of mistakes parents make during divorce and custody and how to avoid them. I will reveal in Chapter 4 one of the most important techniques to influence children to want to spend more time with you.

Let me stress right up front that nothing is more important than your children. Your primary goal should be doing what is best for them. If you start with this premise and work backwards, things will fall into place. Do not focus on timeshares or support payments. Every decision you make should start with the premise of doing what is in the best interest of your children. Take the time to create a Custody Agreement that works for the children and both parents. The more you compromise and work together, then the better off you and your children will be. The more you fight and prolong the process, the more your children will suffer and the more expensive the process will become. So be smart and put your ego and emotions aside. Ask yourself if you would rather use your savings for your children or your attorney’s children!